Many people often say that society must change. They talk about problems such as corruption, inequality, pollution, and lack of discipline. However, real change does not happen just by talking—it begins with action. Instead of expecting society to transform on its own, we should take responsibility and be the change ourselves.
The Importance of Personal Change व्याक्तिगत परिवर्तनको महत्व
Society is a reflection of the individuals within it. If people continue to behave in the same way while expecting society to improve, progress will never happen. Change starts with personal efforts. For example, if we want a cleaner environment, we should begin by not littering and by promoting sustainable habits. If we wish for a more honest society, we must commit to honesty in our own actions.
Small Actions, Big Impact साना कदमहरू, ठूलो प्रभाव
One person’s actions may seem insignificant, but when combined, they create a powerful movement. A single drop of water may not make a river, but millions of drops together can form an ocean. Similarly, if individuals adopt good values, those values will spread and gradually shape a better society.
Leading by Example उदाहरणद्वारा नेतृत्व गर्नु
Instead of complaining about problems, we should set an example. If we want kindness, we must be kind. If we want fairness, we must act fairly. By demonstrating good values in our daily lives, we inspire others to do the same. Positive change is contagious—it starts with one person and influences many.
Even in the family, relationships have been ruined because one person blamed another परिवारमा पनि एउटाले अर्कोलाई दोष दिएर सम्बन्ध भताभुङ्ग बनाएको छ
Blame Game in Families: A Relationship Destroyer
Family is the foundation of our emotional and social well-being. It is where we find love, support, and a sense of belonging. However, when blame and accusations replace understanding and patience, family relationships begin to crumble. Many families experience conflicts where one member blames another for problems, leading to misunderstandings, resentment, and broken bonds.
The Root Causes of Blame in Families परिवारमा दोषको जड़ कारणहरू
Blaming others is often a defense mechanism to avoid taking responsibility for one’s actions or emotions. Some common reasons behind blame in families include:
- Lack of Communication – Misunderstandings arise when family members do not express their feelings openly.
- Unresolved Past Conflicts – Past grudges resurface, causing continuous arguments.
- Stress and Frustration – External pressures, such as financial struggles or work stress, can lead to blaming others.
- Ego and Pride – Sometimes, admitting one’s mistake feels difficult, so it is easier to shift the blame.
Consequences of Blaming in Families परिवारमा आरोपको नतिजाहरु
Blame creates a toxic environment where trust and love are replaced by resentment and distance. Some major effects include:
- Emotional Hurt: Constant accusations can lead to emotional pain and low self-esteem.
- Broken Relationships: Over time, repeated blaming weakens family bonds, sometimes leading to permanent separation.
- Lack of Peace at Home: A home filled with blame and arguments becomes stressful and unpleasant for everyone.
How to Stop the Blame Game? आरोप प्रत्यारोप कसरि बन्द गर्ने
To maintain healthy and happy relationships within the family, it is important to break the cycle of blame. Here are some ways to do so:
- Practice Open Communication – Encourage honest conversations where everyone feels heard and understood.
- Take Responsibility – Instead of blaming others, acknowledge your role in conflicts and work towards solutions.
- Forgive and Let Go – Holding onto past mistakes only worsens relationships. Learn to forgive and move forward.
- Show Empathy – Try to understand the feelings and perspectives of other family members before reacting.
- Seek Professional Help – If conflicts become severe, family counseling can help in resolving deeper issues.
How does a bad mother mentally influence children against their father? एउटा खराव आमाले बाबुको बिरुद्द बच्चाहरुलाई कसरि मानसिक प्रभाव पार्छन
A mother who is emotionally or psychologically harmful to her children can influence their perception of their father in several ways. Here’s a breakdown of how this can happen:
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Manipulation and Alienation: A mother may engage in parental alienation, subtly or overtly turning the children against their father. This can include speaking negatively about the father in front of the children, exaggerating his flaws, or even making false accusations. Children often feel torn between their parents, and a constant narrative of “he’s bad” can make them question their father’s actions or motives.
म्यानिपुलेशन (Manipulation):
म्यानिपुलेशन भनेको अरूको भावना, विचार वा व्यवहारलाई अनुकूल बनाउनको लागि झूठा वा अपारदर्शी तरिकामा प्रभाव पार्नु हो। यो एक व्यक्तिले अरूसँग छलफल गर्दा, निर्णय गर्दा वा अरूसँगको व्यवहारमा आफ्नो स्वार्थका लागि फेरबदल गर्न प्रयोग गर्न सक्छ। म्यानिपुलेशनमा प्रायः झूठ बोल्नु, कुरा घुमाउनु, भावना खेलाउनु, र अरूलाई दोषी बनाउन जस्ता विधिहरू सामेल हुन सक्छन्।
एलियनेशन (Alienation):
एलियनसन भनेको एक व्यक्तिको असहयोग वा मानसिक रूपले अरूसँगको सम्बन्ध विच्छेद गर्ने प्रक्रिया हो। यो प्रायः परिवारका सदस्यहरू बीचमा देखिन्छ, जहाँ एक व्यक्तिले जानबूझेर अरूसँगको सम्बन्ध तोड्न प्रयास गर्छ।
परिवारका सन्दर्भमा, यो प्रायः पारिवारिक सदस्यहरूलाई एकअर्काविरुद्ध उक्साउने वा कुनै एक सदस्यको खिलाफ नकारात्मक विचार राख्ने प्रक्रियामा प्रकट हुन्छ। विशेष गरी, बच्चाहरूलाई एक अभिभावकको खिलाफ उक्साउने प्रक्रियालाई “पारेंटल एलियनसन” भनिन्छ। यसले बच्चाको अन्य अभिभावकसँगको सम्बन्धमा समस्याहरू ल्याउन सक्छ र परिवारका सदस्यहरू बीचमा तनाव सिर्जना गर्छ।
2: Emotional Controlling: A controlling mother might use guilt, shame, or fear to sway the children’s loyalty toward her. This could involve making the children feel responsible for her emotional state or insinuating that their father doesn’t care about them. As a result, children may develop a distorted view of their father, thinking that he is emotionally distant or neglectful.
3: Inconsistent Parenting: A mother who undermines the father’s authority or disregards his role in discipline can create confusion for the child. When a child doesn’t see a unified approach to parenting, they may begin to see their father as less important or irrelevant in their life.
4: Undermining the Father’s Image: Sometimes, mothers criticize the father’s parenting style, personality, or choices, leading children to adopt a negative view of him. Over time, the child may internalize these criticisms and develop resentment or indifference toward their father.
These patterns of behavior can lead to long-lasting emotional and relational problems for children, often affecting their future relationships and sense of trust. It’s important for parents to strive for cooperation and mutual respect in co-parenting, as this helps children form a balanced and healthy view of both parents.
Conclusion सारंसा
Blaming in families does nothing but weaken relationships and create a negative atmosphere. Instead of pointing fingers, families should focus on understanding, love, and forgiveness. A family that supports each other through challenges will always remain strong and united.
Writer: Phatam Gurung
Editor: Global Online Television
